Just last week my husband started a new job and while I am totally over the moon ecstatic for him, we are both realizing what this means for our relationship - less free time with one another. We both lead busy, full and fulfilling lives but know how crucial it is that we make time for each other. If we don't make time to connect, to talk, to be with each other, we risk letting our relationship fall into disharmony. What is the point of all of it, if we don't get to share it with each other?
The same can be said of our friendships and social relationships. We had the chance to sit down for brunch yesterday with some lovely friends of ours, Felicia and Rob, who are just about to head into the busiest time of year for their work field. I realize what a gift that time is with them, and they know that we're busy too. We had a long, leisurely and lively brunch (not a single iphone or device on the table! glorious! well, until we started to talk about iphone covers, but....), it felt like we were there for the whole afternoon, when in reality we were there for less than 2 hours. Once again, time seemingly extended itself. Why? How?
Particularly since we live in such a busy culture, how does one go about making time? While I'm definitely still a student in this arena, I have some ideas. I think when we are able to really be present in what we are doing, present with those who we are with, that is when time appears to slow down. 60 minutes feels like 90 minutes, 2 hours feels like 3 hours, all because we are totally engaged in and connected to our present experience.
When we are connected to the present, the mind has no need to go time traveling into the past or the future, looking for worries or memories or things to cross off the to-do list. Perhaps this slowing of time is an indicator that we are approaching that state of samadhi, total absorption, with the object of our focus?
I'm all about trying to find little, feasible ways to make time throughout my day, no matter how busy I might be. Here are some things that help me to "get present" and quite frankly, get more out of my day:
-Walking my dog (without looking at my phone!)
-Preparing a meal mindfully
-making a ritual out of preparing a special tea or coffee and drinking it
-making it to my yoga mat; whether in the studio or at home, 60 minutes or 15 minutes!
-taking a shower or bath and not rushing through it
-taking 10 - 15 minutes a day to read for pleasure (remember how we used to do that in grade school!?)
All of those activities have the power to give me back some sense of ownership, even on the busiest of days. And let's face it, when we don't feel like we are getting to enjoy our lives, we are probably not feeling our best and not that great to be around. What do YOU do to make time in your day? I really would love to know - leave your "presence presents" in the comments!
namaste and much love,